The Real Truth About Me
I dreamt of being an Olympian, rockstar, and psychologist.
I’ve been told I have a “strong” personality, that I’m “tenacious” and have my “head in the clouds.” Perspective is everything.
I believe that you can create anything you want.
Life isn’t short. We shouldn’t have to wait for “the right time” to live.
It’s a right, not a privilege, to thrive not to just to survive!
What’s the point waiting to dream, to be happy, to be joyful, to love truly, to forgive, to travel, to speak up, to make changes – and most importantly to fight for who we are and what we believe?
When I was seven years old my classmate, Lori Doucoux gave a speech to our class on Olympic gymnast Nadia Commenici.
In 1976 in Montreal, Romanian athlete Nadia Comaneci became the first gymnast in Olympic history to be awarded the perfect score of 10.0 for her performance on the uneven bars. (That’s Nadia landing her perfect 10).
She went on to score a perfect 10.0 six more times and became the youngest all-around Olympic gold medallist ever. I was mesmerized by her story and legacy.
When I got home from school, I asked my mom to sign me up for gymnastics classes.
She was buzzing around the house cooking dinner, making sure everything was running smoothly in our homestead after getting home from work.
I quickly ran out of patience, grabbed the 8lb paper phone book and dialled up the local gymnastics club to inquire about lessons. I remember Mrs. Wylie, the gyms administrative assistant asked if she could speak to my mom – slightly perplexed by my seven-year-old voice!
The next thing I knew I was training in the gym. Obsessed with the sport. The gym was everything to me. It was my religion, my passion and my life for many years. I can still smell the foam and feel the excitement of landing a new skill. It was the source of my greatest joy and the source of some of my greatest pain.
I never made it to the Olympics. Although, I had competed in the Olympic Oval, was a two-time provincial champion and Eastern Canadian Champion in one discipline.
After my competing years were over, I became a gymnastics coach and jumped at the opportunity to move from Canada to Austraila in my 20’s to coach.
Before heading to Australia, as an adventurous University student, I found the same love and passion I had for gymnastics – for music – everything from collecting records, going to live shows, hosting a radio show at the school’s radio station, playing the guitar and singing. All I wanted to do was start a band.
I’ll never forget this one fateful day. When I witnessed the law attraction.
I was at a party with my friends and met a boy in a band. Sounds romantic, right? Well, no it wasn’t. He was looking for an opening act for his bands show – the following month.
With excitement, I told him “I have a band” – a little white and ambitious lie – and we would “totally open for you guys!” He was so excited and said “Awesome you got the gig!” WTF
Shocked, scared and excited – I grabbed my bestie Susan, and off we went to purchase electric guitars.
Oh yeah, we needed a drummer. We stalked, I mean found, a drummer and the rest was history!
It was insane. I’m still not sure how we pulled it off, but we did. We later recorded a record, and it hit #1 in two Canadian cities. We were living the college “rock star” life and playing on stage with some badass rockstars!
So then how the heck did I go on to work for a financial firm on Bay Street, pass the LSAT’s, work as a professional photographer, travel to over 25 countries, start three businesses and then become a life and business coach?
To be honest, I have no idea. All I know is that I kept pursuing my passions. I kept learning. I kept taking risks. And I didn’t let anyone stop me.
I’ve made tons of mistakes. I’ve embarrassed myself along the way, didn’t respect myself at times, ruined some great friendships, lost some great opportunities, and had no idea what I was doing or who I was. I’ve been told I wasn’t “good enough,” or that I was too fat, too stubborn, not fast enough, not strong enough and who did I think I was trying to do this?
For many years, I suffered from anxiety, worry and physical pain. I felt stuck. I felt lost. I wasn’t sure what my purpose in life was anymore. I lost who I was and what I stood for.
I had to make some changes. When I realized I wasn’t living in alignment with who I was and what I believed in, I had to find a better way.
I started to take action. I hired a coach. I read a lot of books, took online courses, in-person courses and workshops, and surrounded myself with people who were on my side.
I decided that I had a choice.
As a gymnastics coach, I had the ability to bring the very best out of my students. I have a natural talent in challenging the status quo. I didn’t listen to other coaches who said my group of gymnasts would never reach a certain level. I never let my team believe that either. Mindset training was a bit part of our overall training sessions. And it worked. It worked so well that my team surpassed all expectations and stood on the podium at every competition we competed at.
So becoming a life and business coach isn’t a surprise to me. I believe that with the right support, the right tools and a solid plan, you can achieve your dreams. Whether you want to live better, be happier, improve your relationships, get fit, reduce stress, anxiety and fear, start a business, or take your business to the next level. I’m here to tell you, you CAN do it.
Your circumstance isn’t your destination. You can decide.
Here are a few very important things I learned along the way:
1. Never let anyone’s opinion of you ever be your business. Don’t play that game.
2. Don’t stop fighting for yourself, for what you believe in and what you stand for. Ever.
3. You have a choice. Always.
4. No one’s purpose is bigger, better or more significant. We are all in this together.
5. As soon as you switch from “me” “me” “me” to “how can I help others?” Everything changes.
6. Judgement is BS. Don’t make things up based on your experiences.
7. It’s ok to get rid of what isn’t working. More than OK.
8. Set boundaries. Don’t be afraid to get your needs met.
9. Forgive yourself. Be kind to yourself. Love yourself. Love others.
10. Never stop believing in your dreams. Ever.
11. Keep learning, reading, and searching for new information and tools that will help you clarify your path and give you the skills to achieve anything you want.
12. Find support, keep trying new things and believe in the beauty that this messy and magnificent life is always leading you to where you need to be.
I’m so glad you’re here.
And Remember, as one of my favourite teachers says “ No matter who you think you are… you are always so much more”