Comparison has become an inevitable part of our lives. It’s how we measure what we have in life and it gives us a measurement of where we think we should be.

This can apply to our personal lives, as well as to our businesses.

If we’re not careful and we can’t detach ourselves from it, the only thing we are going to do is cause ourselves stress and dis-con-tent-ment.

Or worse, it will dis-connect us from our true selves and it can create stories in our heads that are not true.

The goal today is to get you out of your head – which is always a losing game – and help you figure out what you really should be doing rather than comparing yourselves to others.

Comparison has to have two parts to exist. It has to have us in the picture and has someone else or something else also in the picture.

What if we didn’t have anything to compare to? What if, what we were comparing ourselves to, didn’t actually exist.

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The reason I say this is that I see so many incredibly smart, intelligent, creative and super talented people, like you, who get stuck, because they are constantly comparing themselves to something they’ve essentially made up.

And this doesn’t feel good, because we’re making up what we see!

Our representation of someone else’s world is essentially our version of their world. We don’t really know the big picture and rarely know their WHY.

It’s a losing strategy!

What we need to do is refocus. While it is true that people out there are doing things that we want to do.

And many people living great lives, we aspire to live. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.

In fact, there’s nothing better than being truly inspired by someone or motivated by something someone does or says. It’s very important to have a mentor, or a coach or someone we really admire to show us the possibilities.

When we recognize this – what we need to do is model rather than compare.

Modelling behaviour includes modelling physiology – that’s how someone stands, how someone walks into a room, how someone speaks in front of an audience – how they essentially present their physical body and presence in any given moment.

Modelling also allows us to follow strategies, and follow the necessary steps that it takes to get from one point to the next.

Modelling can show us how to achieve, something, someone else has already done.

That way we eliminate the trial and error part and we can learn how to do things or achieve things in much less time.

Modelling is a proven strategy that excels you rather than disconnects you.

The trouble with comparison, is that comparison can only show us so much.

The next time you find yourself comparing yourself to others, I want you to stop, take a deep breath and start thinking about – or better yet – start writing out your unique abilities.

These are all the things, that when you are doing, come to you easily and effortlessly and bring you joy and happiness. You know you’re there because you’re totally in your zone and have total confidence. You feel a flow and are inspired rather than tired.

You feel aligned with values and goals and most likely are working towards the bigger picture of YOUR goals – not somebody else’s.

Once you can identify those unique abilities, I want you to carefully consider adding them to new ideas or projects – immediately – and not waiting until you’re ready – because ready NEVER exists.

Move forward quickly with these ideas and always know that you can tweak what you’re doing along the way.

Now you should see the difference – between comparison and modelling.

Remember, Comparison has to have two parts to exist. It has to have us in the picture and has someone else or something else also in the picture.

What if we didn’t have anything to compare to? What if, what we were comparing ourselves to, didn’t actually exist.

If you take anything away from today’s article – remember – If you’re chasing someone else, or chasing your competition – you will only go as far as your competition can go – rather than how far YOU can actually go.

 

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